Quote Originally Posted by Timberwolf
The idea that a "natural Dominant" is one who is able to behave and command a certain way in "vanilla" environments like work is totally flawed. There are many, many subs who are the ones in charge at work, and are totally comforatable as such.
Quote Originally Posted by Psynymph
well i mentioned a natural Dom would be someone who was a leader, took charge......i wasn't talking about jobs really.
Me neither. There ARE people who are dominant in a lot of their day to day activities in the vanilla world, not just talking about "work" here. These people are called control freaks. I know several of them. This is why Master and my uncle don't get along well LOL. Now that's not to say they're total assholes or anything (well... my uncle is an asshole for other reasons lol), but they just naturally assume dominant positions in everything from conversation to playing sports, are basically the "leader" amongst their friends, and usually enjoy being the center of attention.

Now what if someone was like this but preferred to be submissive in sexual situations? I'd still say they had a dominant personality, yeah. So for my own personal use of the term, someone who likes to Dom in a BDSM sense and is dominant in a lot of other ways outside of that, I'd call them a "natural dominant".