Getting the partner involved?

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Thanks for the websites -- they were so informative and helpful.

The update: I spent a long time researching and thinking of a good first step. Sat down with him tonight and presented it. He said he'd think about it and give me an answer on Friday. I got a very different vibe from him this time -- I suspect he said he was interested to be nice, and now that I've gotten into specifics he's trying to find a way out of it. I understand; as I said, I don't want to force him.