That was a problem i was having. I would ask kishi what his fantasy was and he would say me. Sitting down and really talking about things or finding stories or sights that have ideas and sitting down and reading them together has help a lot. Even in the past few days since we both started posting here there has been a little more communication between the two of us about stuff he wants. One other thing we do sometimes it lay in bed masterbating together and sharing fantasies.