Quote Originally Posted by Katmandu
...we have been trying to learn and get into this lifestyle for only @ 4 months now.I have a dilemma, that is threatening our entire setup, and I'm hoping for a LOT of opinions and advice. Now, here is the problem:
My Master wants me to SHARE me! Well, wait a minute, that isn't the real problem, it's how he wants me to have sex with others that is. His fondest fantasy is for me to go out and either pick somebody up and have sex, or 'DO' a co-worker. Then, come home and tell him about it, as well as show proof of having performed.

Well, I'll tell ya'll, this has proven too difficult for me for 2 reasons;
1. It's entirely too dangerous to pick up strangers, because of the possible physical harm from 'wackos', as well as the chance of catching a disease like HIV. I mean, does a condom really prevent contamination from HIV or Gonnorhea?
2. I intend to stay with my Company until retirement, and I do NOT wish to have to leave my job should it become too unbearable if I participate in 'back room antics'!

Sooo, all good Doms and subs out there, am I truly being a BAD slave? Am I making up reasons to not be obedient? Is it simply too early in our developement to start wandering "outside" with our play? Is there a way to better condition either one of us to make this work? Is there, truly, any way to find others with whom we can have reasonably safe sex?

Please help, as I truly believe this is the SOLE reason my Master has agreed to this lifestyle, to see this fantasy of his become a reality. Thanks.......
No, Katmandu, you are not being a bad slave. And Mobius is right. The first rule of bdsm is Safe Sane and Consensual. The whole concept of sex with srangers is not safe and you have every right to be concerned about your reputation at work.

Also your master seems to have forgotten one very important thing: This is HIS fantasy. But is it also YOURS? Unless the answer is yes, he has no right to force you to do this.

As for finding other people to have sex with, I would be inclined to direct you to other people for who would understand the idea of sex outside relationship as a bdsm fantasy. Neither I or my girlfriend have evrer done anything like what your master suggests but it is my experience that people who understand bdsm (not just wannabe players) are usually more careful about who they have sex with. There are exeptions, of course, but overall, people in this community are a bit more responsible than the average swinger.