I would have to agree with what has been said before. Your lover would not be there if they did not find you attractive and wish to be there. The more posts I read at this site the more I see that we all seem to have a few things in common, foremost of which is that we are in our relationships sincerely and honestly because we wish to be there. We are driven by what is real not what some media driven ad campaign tells us.

Do what you have to do to please yourself, but you don't need to be so hard on yourself.

Barton.