Oh good grief, I am amazed, I havn't introduced myself here. I'm sure I did somewhere...

Well, I'm 47, I love being bound, constricted, whipped, am learning to be spanked, but I really don't know if I would classify myself as submissive, when I look at the desire to serve and lose themselves to their Masters that many of the subs here have. I just don't have that - I feel I've fought hard to get to be me, I'm proud of my me-ness, and I am damned if I'm going to lose it. On the other hand... oh yes, I certainly submit when involved sexually. But not the rest of the time. Unh-unh.

I had my first BDSM experience when I was about 18; tied up and whipped roundly many times. Loved it. I have been in vanilla relationships mainly since, except one other where dressing (for him, cross-dressing), light bondage and pretty heavy strangulation were important. But nothing since for 11 years...

I started a new relationship just recently, which has taken me rapidly and with huge pleasure straight back into bondage - introduced spanking - and introduced a level of submission I had not encountered before, since this man knows about domination, and boy, has it had an effect... went doolally a bit, and ended up here. This site and everyone on it has been a huge help for learning and support.

Whilst being vaguely aware of masochism, sadism and bondage, the actual D/s scene and the concept of Master/slave is completely new to me since joining this forum. Still trying to get my head round it...