scarletakb, it has been said many other times here already, but I would like to add to the aforementioned sentiments; your lover does not seem to have issues with your weight. Which is good. As a male and a Dom, a lover, a husband, and even a father; I can not see how I could be responsible to any of those roles if I allowed weight to interfere with my pursuit of any of those.

Now there are health issues about weight, it is true that overweight people have more health problems than slimmer people. So what, life happens to all of us. There are those who will be heavy, those who will be toothpicks, who cares. I do not see how one's weight should affect one's relationship with one's self and one's lovers, in concievable to me.

Obviously, your lover and your husband have not found you less than beautiful. Beauty has nothingto do with size. Does anyone remember Marilyn Monroe? She was not petite. This cult of anorexia that has swept our culture is truely sad and disgusting;but you do not have to participate, no one does.

Beyond that, you have stated that you are working on your weight, you excersice, excellent. The body needs that, but your mind needs the calestentics of positive attitude. Don't let the words of mino-minded and less endowed assholes cut you to the quick. you have the right to be proud of yourself and your body. There is no perfect body, if there were we would be mass produced on assembly lines, so don't let it bother you, if you can.

Alright, I know I am a male an therefore not caable of understanding women completely, I actually do know that.