I can totally relate here although mine is a different story.

I have always been on the "chubby" side but rarely too badly overweight until my mid thirties when my weight ballooned and I became really obese.

I decide that I was not going to be "fat and forty" so I decide to lose the weight and it took 15 months for me to lose 96lbs. I felt great. Then I gave up smoking, became depressed and in the past 6 years the weight has gone back on with a vengeance.

Now...through all of this my hubby has stuck with me. Thin, fat, in between, he has not changed one iota. Obviously as the "fatty" that I am now I am unable to be quite as flexible as before but we improvise and just get on with enjoying ourselves. My weight now is a part of my health problems so I do have to lose it again....not easy when i am having hip problems and exercise is not feasible. Someone has just suggested to me to try yoga to start and I will look into that as a possibility.

My point is....through all the ups and downs our life has adapted to accomodate my size. Our enjoyment has not really been affected, except recently with my painful hip things have gotten a bit ouchy sometimes.

You are making a positive action in your life and you will feel so good when you reach your personal goals and your confidence will grow with that. In the meantime however, just enjoy life with your lover. Your size seems not to be an issue with him so try not to make it too much of an issue for you. 50lbs is an amazing amount of weight to lose and I applaud you. It is hard and every pound shed is fantastic. I should know cos I've been there!

Take heed of everyone here who has told you that other peoples thoughlessness should not make you feel bad. People will always critisise...and not just about weight....its human nature....sad but true.

Maybe I will be able, in a few months, to come here and boast about losing 50lbs too!! Here's hoping!