What about size?

[kittenfemme]

I have the same problem... only from the opposite side of it. I'm too damn skinny. I hate that. I've tried all sorts of things to put on weight. I've run tests (benefits of working in the medical field) to see if I've an off thyroid. I exercise a fair amount. But I've come to accept that I can't keep weight on.

I often worry about assuming certain positions because it will look as though I've no curves whatsoever, or because my ribs show, or my legs are so skinny that they look like twigs and make my knees seem very knobby.

Thankfully, I receive a lot of positive feedback from my lovers. I may scoff and let it roll off my back, as bad duck cliches are want, but it helps a lot. My Mistress compliments me too, and I can't dismiss those or I'll get in BIG trouble.

I think that what it comes down to is something someone else already mentioned in this thread. Those who find me attractive aren't usually after just my body type. There are a plethora of other things that add to just the image that I project (hairstyle, hair color, clothing style, how I walk, how I speak, my smile, my cold eyes, et-cetera), not to mention who I really am. If attraction was only based on body type then I'd be a lonely, lonely girl.

Many men may enjoy the Hollywood stereotype but I prefer the company of other women, and women (myself included) tend to enjoy a lady with curves... a real woman as opposed to someone with a rail-thin, anorexic supermodel silhouette. I typically prefer submissives, Dommes, and lovers in general who do NOT look like they just walked out of a fashion mag.

There are exceptions. My Mistress is one of them. She's absolutely stunning in a mainstream way. But women who look like that and perpetuate the high femme attitude generally turn me off. I usually like a lady who is pretty in a much more conventional, every-day way.

Part of that is because it's just what I like. I can't explain it. I just dig women who aren't stick figures.

Part of it is because I can't stand the "prettiest girl in the room" syndrome... the "I'm going to walk all over everyone and get away with it, not because I'm more powerful, smarter, stronger, or cleverer, but because I'm prettier" way of thinking. Gah.

Above all, either seeing a woman on her knees in submission or a woman standing in front of me while I'm on my knees gives me a clean slate. Outside of any D/s agreement between that woman and myself I know that either she's mine or I'm hers... at least for a time. I can bend her to my will and teach her what I want or have those things done to myself. She either gives power or takes it from me willingly. That's what I consider important in a BDSM context. That's sexy to me.