About Younger Women

[drake7]

It seems she does indeed only want a physical relationship.

I am in quite good shape physically, but it is still nice to find that a member of the opposite sex so much younger finds you attractive.

I appreciate all the good advice and insights from everyone who responded.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

What do we have here? Another for old time's sake.

[maratsade]

Times they are a changing. Both my grandfathers were more than twenty years older than their wives. I didn't know either of them in a mature sense. But reminisence by their children - my parents, aunts, uncles, etc. - suggests that the relationship was good in both cases.

For myself, though, I would wonder whether I would be able to keep up with someone so much younger. Or whether I would want to.

[csr]

For years I passed judgement on people who dated way out of their age bracket. It is really easy to point fingers at examples where it didn't work--and of course there are difficulties involved when you have a different set of life experiences and are in a different point in your life.

However, I have found myself for the past few years in a relationship with a much younger woman... 14 years, to be exact. I resisted starting it because I didn't think I would be satisfied, or she wouldn't be, or it just wouldn't last.

Well, my friend talked me into it--citing that if she is worth the trouble, then it is worth putting the work in. He was right, and we've never been happier. Yes, she doesn't know words to Pink Floyd songs, doesn't get jokes about Ronald Reagan, etc... but this type of thing is surface.

My new rule to live by:
Age is just a number... it's the individual that counts.

Not to mention the fact that I have learned to NEVER assume that I know better than anyone else in their choice of partners. (abuse excepted, of course)

[Wontworry]

Yes, she doesn't know words to Pink Floyd songs

Oh yes csr, THAT was a huge hurdle for us too, but she is learning them slowly.

Although it does work both ways in that I actually quite like the Stone Roses now, although Oasis .. thats an entirely different matter. :yuck:

[Walace]

I don't see any trouble in having a older/younger boyfriend/girlfriend. My late relations have all been with much older womans, and I'm quite sure of it: age had nothing to do with relationships.

I have had a preety good time with a 29 years woman when I was only 21, and all that ilusion I had about older people being more mature begun losing it's sense. A few other girlfriends later (most of them were likewise older) the diference has became even irrelevant.

Actualy, my girlfriend (we've been together for 2 years now) is at her fifties, and I'm only 24! And believe, it's still no diferent from a regular relationship. The only pro I can possibly see is that I get very aroused when I think about that diference.

If there's ever to be any diference, it should mostly be that she's very insecure, thinking if I wouldn't be better with someone of the same age, or if I would be hapier with my friends... Well, I think the choice is mine. And if I've chosen things to go this way, most probably it's because I like it best.

Remember, you don't have control over people's will. The best you can do for her is to make your own choice based on your feelings, and nothing more.

[ProjectEuropa]

...all that ilusion I had about older people being more mature begun losing it's sense.

I'll totally agree with you here. The one thing I have learnt with age is that older people are exactly that, older. We have all the same nonsense and stupidity in us and it doesn't go away. I think the wisdom age brings is the understanding and recognition of just how immature we all are!

[yellowrose]

My first relationship was with a man much older then myself. We did marry and it was a mistake. Because he was so much older it made me feel that I was more mature (more grown up). Seems all kids want to rush growing up.

Over time the differences did eventually cause problems. Mainly that I did grow up and change while he was also changing (yes we do go through changes even in middle age *smiles*) I don't regret my time with him nor do I embrace it. It just was. Being with someone older means there are chances that one of the pair will move into a different phase of life that can cause problems is all. That can also happen even closer in age.

I have also dated a men younger then myself. I personally don't recommend it and don't ever plan to do so again. They just aren't in the same stage of life as myself. Great fun but not someone I can take serious.

[Walace]

They just aren't in the same stage of life as myself. Great fun but not someone I can take serious.

Interesting that I have always been saying the same about my past relations... And just as I've said: my past relations have mainly been with people older than myself... My girlfriend have 50 years, and although she is older, I'm the one who teaches her almost all the time. She knows little about other's feelings, and a litle time ago she knew nothing about pleasure variations like BDSM, fetish and so on.

Most of my ex-girlfriends, especialy the late older ones, have been "playing with my feelings" instead of engaging in the relationship seriously.
I think there are no paterns nor lines to be followed. It's just like "look for what you want in someone", and age is one of the less inportant things to take note of.