Hi, dynamicbuttler - very interesting name! I do hope that some Dommes answer this thread - they are around! I'm not going to attempt to answer your questions, because I agree totally with what has already been said, but you are definitely in the right place here! there is loads to learn just from reading, people are incredibly friendly and helpful, you can always ask questions and no-one minds. There is no right or wrong way, just the way that works for you and whoever you're with. (always not forgetting safe, sane, consensual).

Good luck in your search, and enjoy yourself here! It really is a fun place, as well as so useful, great to find a community of people you just fit in with.