Hello! I'm new of course, and shy. And yet rather talkative.

I am married and have recently related my needs for power play to my husband. My husband is a lovely human being in so many ways and we are really very attracted to each other.

My husband traditionally likes to be on the bottom in vanilla sex, but I have recently tapped into his latent desire to dominate. The results blew me away. We have lots more experimenting to do.

Likewise, where I have been dominant in the past, I have now realized that I enjoy being submissive more. My identity is undergoing a transformation now because of it, so my name may change.

I am so excited, I cannot relate the kind of feeling I get from being disciplined. The explicit power relationship adds so much to our existing relationship. I never knew it could all be so deeply fulfilling.

I do tend toward a specific set of fantasies, but I have come here to learn and share in the great creativity involved in BDSM. I'm quite excited.

I explore new ways to play out power relationships in my academic and professional life, and am deeply interested in customs from around the world, hence my name "Curio". It's has a purposely Victorian ring to it-- tongue in cheek of course since I am a "civilized primitive"-- a woman of color. I suppose that's where my name get its comedic appeal.

In any case, as you can see there are checkered historical overtones to my fantasies and I think it adds to the power, protest and taboo. Truth is, very awful and unspeakable things still happen as a result of colonialization.

I think of education as a continuing kind of terrible insidious colonial influence and so as you might guess, I have a number of student/teacher/disciplinarian fantasies. I was also a bit unruly as a schoolgirl so I guess this kind of play continues the psychodrama.

I love mildly forbidden scenarios (that is anything EXCEPT implied realistic violence, incest or age-inappropriate situations-- I guess I'm tame in that those are things that seriously turn me off) rope bondange, odd devices, contraptions, restraints, costumes, multiple penetration sites, smoking, spanking, crops, double dildoes, water, snow, outdoor play, furniture, washing, being washed, curious about ritual piercing, etc. etc. I'm not so into biological waste.

That said, I hope to make some friends and mentors here that may be able to guide me in the right direction.

Ciao!

M.C.