I may be able to shed some light, as a recovering nilla marriage and relationship of 14 yrs. Wwe are headed into Oour 6th month of D/s life.

Take the things you enjoyed before, and then find her desires, you mentioned light play, and thats where Wwe began intermigled with a terrifically renewed sex life now, Wwe only have contact for that in the Dungeon, its wonderful.

But I digress, Wwe began with lite pain, restraints, and have rapily moved into very heavy 'spankings' much rougher activity in general, again, all revolving around the sexual acts.

I'm fortunate,, as she is willing to try things out, different nipple clamps, wax, etc

So find her needs, if you 2 arent sure,talk.....talk alot......its a great relationship builder.

Now as for Uus, and I felt you were asking this without saying it
the rest of the D/s relationship; this has been the hardest challenge for Me, 14 years of knowing a way in the relationship is much harder to deal with than edge play is to learn.

Now communication is everything, have talks often and meaningful talks, not lip service.F ind out what submissive means to her, each girl is different, then once you KNOW her heart, take control over the relationship, and be consistent, not letting nilla remnants creep in, although they will pop up time to time. SQUASH em

She wants a Dom for a reason, and she wants it to be you FOR a reason, take what shes giving, and take your desires, mingle them together, and be her Dom, while being her husband too. While the 2 of you grow together, your relationship will have a strong foundation.