I just recently joined the forum and was looking at the posts, trying to decide which threads to reply to first. looks like this would be a good choice.

I'm 22 years old, female, and dominant (at least 95% of the time). I've been interested in BDSM since I was in middle school, but was shy (and not into dating/sex at the time), and didn't really explore my interests other than reading stuff online, some writing, and a lot of fantasy/self-bondage. I first "tried" BDSM at about age 16 (light bondage & spanking, a little mental domination), as a submissive, because that's where most of my fantasies were at the time, and because most stuff I'd read said that women were "supposed" to be the submissive ones. As I grew up some, and explored things a little more, this changed.

I met my fiance/sub around the time I turned 19. We started out in a vanilla relationship, but found that we were both interested in BDSM within the first few months. I tied him to a chair with my stockings one night and teased him for a while, and things took off from there. We switched for a few more months and experimented with different things until we found the roles we were most comfortable with. I realized that I was mentally much more into domination, and he just seemed to be a natural sub. I switch every once in a while and will "bottom", but not submit, to him, because there are times I really get into the pain/sensation, and also because I don't like to try something on a sub that I haven't first felt for myself. It works out good.

We're monogamous, and haven't "played" with any other people, although I could see it happening in a non-sexual context. Now that we're comfortable doing things together, we've thought about going to some semi-local munches to meet other people into BDSM, to meet new people and learn new things. Clubs/play parties also sound interesting, but I'm not sure either of us would be up to any public scenes just yet (we're both a little shy in some ways, and our scenes are usually prety personal, as I'd imagine most people's are). For now, most of our interaction with other "pervs" is online, through websites, groups, and forums like this. I also lurk, and occasionally post on s.s.b-b on Usenet.

I haven't submitted any stories here yet, although I've red a few (yum!), and I may send in one or two once I get the time to write and type them up. I've loved to write every since I was young, and have had poetry and some horror/short stories, and "confession"(lierary trash, but quick, easy) money in a pinch) stories published over the last couple years, but erotica/BDSM fiction is a new genre for me (outside of some lame fantasy stuff I worte as a teen), so I'm a little nervous about writing in a whole new genre, for a new audience.


--Raine
(the shy domme chick)