A question for the female dommes

[drake7]

The missionary position, which I think is what you are talking about, is no more 'normal' than any other position- and quite a bit less normal than some. So if I were you I wouldn't get hung up on that position.

Allow me to offer you some advice, however, that is universal for either male or female dominants; the orgasm- or lack thereof, is totally immaterial to the pleasure of the dominant. A good dominant, regardless of gender, uses their submissive for their own pleasure. This is how most submissives want it.

The second bit of advice I want to give you was a technique told to me by a domme friend. I am not sure if it is applicable for you but if nothing else you might find it intriguing. While having sex with her submissive she imagined she was the one who had the penis and he the vagina. So in her mind she was the one doing all the thrusting and such

I am not sure if that might help, but she seemed pretty happy with it.

Drake.

[Lord Thomas]

I know the question posed is to Dommes not Doms, but game have you ever considered that the vagina actually consumes the penis?

Seriously, look at sex as a violent act, yes; however, lets just turn the perspective around a bit. In the perspective you have gave us game, the male is the aggressor and the act is perpetrated by the invading penis upon and into the vagina. Which is of course true.

*evil grin*

But "the truth is a three edged sword" (couldn't resist I love that Bab5 quote), If you just change perspective as one of an act of violence, utter violence actually. As the vagina takes and consumes the penis. The penis begins full of life, at the top of its form and power of masculinity; erect and undauntable. Then the vagina covers it, surrounds it, swallows it whole. Then the violence truly commences, the penis struggles for life and is drowned. Crushed, buried, and sucked dry as if by a vampire drawing out the very root of its male life force. The vagina departs leaving a shrinking, crippled and dying phallus in its wake.

Not that I am a Domme, but I have always had that bit of perspectives on penetration itself. I wonder if any of the Dommes out there actually would concur or deny My vision of from the other side as it were.

~LT~

[Barton]

As the vagina takes and consumes the penis. The penis begins full of life, at the top of its form and power of masculinity; erect and undauntable. Then the vagina covers it, surrounds it, swallows it whole. Then the violence truly commences, the penis struggles for life and is drowned. Crushed, buried, and sucked dry as if by a vampire drawing out the very root of its male life force. The vagina departs leaving a shrinking, crippled and dying phallus in its wake.

~LT~

That sent shudders down my spine. I may not think about having sex for the rest of my life.

Talk about a graphic image. Those words were used like a bludgeon.

Being a male I have never thought about intercourse in quite that way. But that is one way to look at it.
Barton.

[ValKyrie]

I like that perspective, Lord Thomas!

Bwahaaahaaa haaa!



I have to agree with drake, also. Intercourse is about serving and pleasing me. His orgasm is an incidental happenstance and occurs only when it please Me. We like it that way.

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[Pickety Witch]

I have never thought of intercourse in quite that way before but it can so be true!

Thanks Lord T for that interesting turn of normal opinion!

[Katmandu]

I read something similar to that, Lord Douche, oh, about 20 or so years ago.
*laughing* I took that theory to heart, unfortunately for my male lovers. Now that I am subbing, I feel sorry for my Dom when these old thoughts permeate my brain again. I lose all discipline, and he loses control. Not good!

(However, we are both new at this; maybe someday I'll get the hang of it and trade in my training collar for a real one! -

As the vagina takes and consumes the penis.

-must keep evil ideas away......!)

[Alex Bragi]

I agree completely with Valkirie, dominance is more often a state of mind than a physical force. Just because he's on top doesn't necessarily mean he's in charge, and visa versa.

"Normal" human intercourse (as I have stated somewhere else in this forum) requires the woman to assume a submissive position and the act itself has a semblance of violence. For the male to achieve orgasm he must thrust hard and fast into the female.

Well, Game, this is where I don't feel you're entirely correct.

The simplest way I've found to 'dominate' sexually is to be literally on top. Sitting astride my partner, thrusting myself down onto his penis. It's put me in complete control of how fast and hard things get, and it's not at all difficult for us both to achieve a climax. It's fun for change too -- for me to 'take him'.

Among femdom circles, I believe anal sex and/or 'milking' is what's often practiced. My understanding is anal sex is a huge turn on for a many heterosexual men -- apparently it's got something to do with the pressure it exerts on the prostate. Milking, is just what the name suggests. Usually, the male would be down on all fours, and the woman behind him, but obviously it could be fun in any position. Again, it's the attitude of the players, and not necessarily the play, that makes her the 'dominant'.

So, Woodsman might be seeing another side to you soon?

Alex.