'normalcy' so to speak within socialital groups differ from area to area..country to country. BDSM is a very wide-scoped spectrum of many activities that people enjoy. many reasons for people wanting to hurt..or be hurt...abound. almost as many as there are of us that practice. and then the non-painful side of BDSM or D/s. i myself lived in a very D/s marriage for many years...having no clue that thats' what it was. no kink...just..me waiting on him hand and foot. seemed natural. i digress.

from the words i read from you...it seems you have more than a passing interest. where did those thoughts come from? only you can answer that. you are not 'weird' or 'wrong' or 'broken'. i can't begin to imagine how many non BDSM couples enjoy a swat on the ass during sex. it heightens sensations. some of us...just take it to deeper levels.

if you want to pm me..please feel free...

i'm a shrink LOL *lookin' at Tom hard* hey....no one said it was a science. its alllllllllll about listening *winks*