I came to this board to learn more for an online friend as i've said before.
as for as the lifestyle.. i partook of it some with the wife and those before her ,... mostly light things. none really wanted more or would allow more for that matter. My desire for it grew less untill i came here and it was resparked by reading, participating and through the pleasure i saw from wife and my online Pet.
I'm glad i came here to learn more, and think things will only improve.
Being open regardless of what others tell you is the proper way or thier way..
is key to what you do and your happiness. Listen to others but Do as you and your partner require for that relationship.