After a little while of starting to have sexual fantasies, I found that some began to feature an element of me being helpless or controlled. I had no idea what bdsm was, it just sort of happened. So innate would be the category that it fell into. I then found that bdsm encompassed what these desires were, and hence it was labelled. But then when I (finally!) began to act on/out these desires, I toyed with domming. Turns out I quite like the idea of that too. And now on the subbie task feature in the forum I seem to be domming, and really enjoying it. But I think was innate too, I just hadn't realised it.

On a side note though I'm not sure I am as true a bdsmer as some. While I gain pleasure from domming and subbing it is invariably because I enjoy the situation I am in as a sub, or I enjoy the idea of the situation I am putting a sub in, rather than the deep feelings of submission/domination in relation to the other person. But maybe this would change if I met the "right" person as it were. Just an observation.

P.S. this post may appear twice. If it does, apologies.