Pandora - good post, you make a lot of sense. i especially liked what you said about learned behaviour and reactions clashing with being submissive.

redlioness - you mentioned in your PM that the TPE thing was an assignment of some sort; with this in mind, could you maybe tell us a bit more on what it is to involve? Is there some specific question or slant, or a general thing? You could could maybe give an overview of some sort and that personalize it to you...

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