I just wanted to thank Pandora's box and Katmandu for their responses. D/s for me is not just physical, but thre is a mental aspect I am trying to obtain. I am very new to this lifestyle and You are much more knowlegable than I and have helped me sort out some issues. I would love to talk more, if you want send me a private message. I don't want to impose.

Slavelucy,
thank you for suggesting I post a question. Have you found out that TPE is? it means Total Power exchange. Here is a site that may help.
http://www.enslavement.org.uk/