If I had known some of the things my first mistress was training me for I would have bailed before we began. I don’t know if she would have told a more advanced sub, but I think she knew she might scare a newbie away. These weren’t punishments, rather general kinks, but I think it applies. She was able to mold me to her desires by taking small steps, and it was a fulfilling, if terrifying, experience. As such I think it’s always better for the dom/domme to guide (while respecting any hard limits), leaving communication channels open.


J.M.