Quote Originally Posted by moptop View Post
And in response to fantassy - hey guys, we all have our limits. moral-man, I happen to agree with your limits, but I don't feel I have the right to describe people who take things further than me as being perverse: that is, assuming that perverse is taken to be a negative thing, and something that you feel is 'wrong'. Other people who don't do what I do would describe me as perverse, and I don't think I am! so I have to respect that just because something exceeds my limits, I do not have the right to criticise it in others. I do have the right to say that it makes me feel bad and I don't like the idea for me, of course.

Hope that makes sense.

You make perfect sense

But please don't get me wrong, when I say perverse all I'm implying is that that living such a life deviates severely from social and communal behaviour patterns which are seen as normal and favourable in our society. Although you understanably assumed so, I am not making a moral judgement and I don't wish to criticise.

however, I am concerned about the dangers that such a lifesyles may have to the individuals that follow them. I just can't see how a person that dedicates his or her life to beeing a slave to another person (and merely due to his or her sexual urges) could have a fulfilled and loving life. How could this person ever develop respect for his/herself if his/her very partner delights in not showing any. For this and other reaosns I would call a intensive sadomasochistic lifestyle unhealthy.

In regards to Tom's rquest, I am afraid I have no definate answer for what the purpose of life is. I suppose each person may has its individual purpose and responsbilities. Nevertheless, I believe that our sexual urges can influence our way of thinking and can make us act contrary to what we believe or know is right. For that reason I don't think that we could possibly find the meaning in our lives by mindlessly obeying to them and for that reaosn I Personally think that sexual fanatsies are something we should act out with our partners in our bedrooms, and not in our socal life.