Hello, welcome on board. And I agree with you, there probably as many lifestyles as people here. Just about everybody is into different things, some may like assplay, others not... There are painsluts here, but also those (prob most of us) that aren't, and use pain as a punishment. Although light pain is quite common I think (nipple clamps etc).

Just take your time to find out what you do and do not like. And find someone to share it with. And maybe over time explore things you might not really like at first, but that's all up to you...