well i think in my safe word is more so i can get what i need out of our play time it allowes him to know that my gasps are not a sign that he is truely hurting me but that if i need Him to stop i can tell him, It is hard to make him understand that sometimes simple words like ouch just kinda slip out! thank you every one for posting i am really learning lots while i am in here adn i do appreciate the info

smilie