A very interesting read from everyone. It is interesting from a Dominants perspective what is common amongst many, seems to differ ever so slightly.

I have studied psychology for a number of years, both in University and on my own, and find the psychology behind BDSM to be completely fascinating. In fact, much of my draw to the lifestyle was that it was a simple extension of whom I was as a person in my professional life, and my personal but non-sexual life.

While I appreciate and enjoy the sexual aspects of BDSM, the non-sexual holds a very different dynamic in that it is mostly psychological stimulation that attracts me to submissives.

Sorry if my post seems like hijacking your thread lily, I did not intend to do that in sharing my thoughts.

SKOTC.