Lily, these are all very good questions... In response, I want to say I love the way you think! In fact it is refreshing to see and read the posts from people who actually do think, as it is one of my everyday beliefs that common sense is not so common any more… much the same, people have become so lazy in this fast-food society that we live in that they choose not to think as often as possible.

When we fully submit to you, how does it make you feel? What does it do for you?

Submission of another to me is very much a gift. I view another’s submission to me as a belief in their confidence of me as a leader, their understanding of me as a person, their trust in me to care for them as well as caring about them, and also as a sign of respect in which they place so much of their faith in me to do the right thing not just for me, but for us as a common group.

What about when we are pleasing?

When a submissive pleases, it gives me a feeling of gratitude from them… in some way they are grateful for what I offer them, and in return they please me as a form of showing their approval in the way I conduct myself, treat them, and care. I also see their pleasing me as a selfish act on the part of the submissive, as their pleasing me, also gives them a feeling of pleasure… a double-edged sword!

When we disappoint you?

Disappointment, on the other hand, may be their way of telling me that they are dissatisfied with something I have done, without actually saying something, or it may be just that I have set the bar too high. Regardless, disappointment gives the submissive the feeling of having let down the very one they care for, and most times, the feelings they bestow upon themselves are far harsher than any punishment a Dom could give.

When we top from the bottom?

Topping from the bottom is likely a great way for one to have her butt spanked. I quite appreciate the chances I might get to see this in someone, as it will offer chances to get to see how they think, and plot their own courses for themselves, without guidance.

What about if you don't have a current sub/slave?

I do not at this time have a submissive, and have not had one in some time. This has been my own choice as I felt I required some reflective time to grow as a person both inside and outside BDSM.

What do you get out of it all?

Once I find the right person for myself, that one submissive that I want to spend my time with, and focus my energy on, I believe the rewards that I will gain from that will be many-fold. For the most part, it gives me a chance to gain much insight into that other person, and to live a life that is far greater than a vanilla relationship could ever offer. I view my life in BDSM as one that is far freer with communication, feelings, and such, that we are both gaining what we want.

What brings you back for more?

The knowledge that I am able to share myself with others, and that I might have something to offer that will allow them to grow as a person in ways they are unable to otherwise. I also believe that I can not grow to reach my own full potential as one, without having those bonds with another that offer so very much to me… Intellect, passion, lust, fun, psychology, trust, respect, love and so very much more.

Allows you to put up with all the trouble we give you?

What trouble… <insert whip cracking sound here>