I do wonder sometimes how many people would like to play (bdsmwise) but never get the chance. I thought about it for years but would never bring it up because I didn't want to be labeled a "freak". Luckily I met a girl who wasn't afraid to make a subtle suggestion...the next thing you know I'm going nuts with the checkbook buying cuffs and ropes and whips and anything else I could think of. I wonder if she ever regrets bringing it up? No complaints so far. Best relationship I've ever had!