Sick! Your friend sounds FUN. I don't know... I think femdom is so fake sometimes. People do whatever is popular and obey the trends in the "scene". People think all it is is leather and whips... The way I see it, a lot of dommes just whip really lightly and are too afraid to cause damage, etc. If I had a girl with a gun to my head, I'd know we wasn't fucking around. I mean, come on: Let's not lie to ourselves. The more mainstream this stuff gets, the more it just stops being about brutality. I think any good sex is sex that brings out the animal in you, and what's more raw and animalistic than a predator taking her prey by FORCE?