Dominant vs. Master

[Dslave]

LOL Dslave!!! If you think being either a Dominant or a Master is akin to being a husband...you have clearly never had a wife!!!

I was merely using those examples to compare levels of commitment. Comparing the commitment of a Dominant to a Master, to me, is like comparing the level of commitment of a boyfriend to a husband. I am NOT by any meaning of the word trying to say that being a Master is the exact same thing as being a husband. I know full well that the responsibilities and commitments are different. HOWEVER, I am saying that it IS a similiar level of commitment. Maybe, I should put it like this... You can play with an instrument OR you can Master an instrument. Being a Master of that instrument involves a high level of commitment and discipline it involves learning that instrument inside and out and bringing out the VERY BEST in that instrument. Playing with that instrument only involves knowing the "basics". It is when you become one with the instrument that you get the very best out of it and until you can put that kind of intensity into something you are never going to be the Master of it. It is the same, with a BDSM relationship. I could have compared the words Dominant and Master to a number of things. I chose the "boyfriend vs. husband" scenario simply because we ARE talking about relationships here. Very DIFFERENT levels of relationships, in my opinion. And, again, it is just my opinion. But, if you speak of the "Master" of anything, you ARE speaking of a different level of commitment and discipline and you are speaking of a union between the Master and the thing, person or pet it is Mastering. (Because you cannot be a Master of "nothing" because that is like being a King without a country.) And marriage is, after all, one of the most common "unions" there are. And, also something anyone (even beginners and vanillas) can relate to.

The thing that boggles my mind in the BDSM community, really, is that so many men call themselves Masters but are they? I have to wonder, half the time, what it is they are Mastering. I mean, you can call yourself a Master all you want but really until someone else calls you Master and your actions are displaying a Mastery over something (or someone), are you a Master? (Just something to think about.)

And, in fact, for a moment, let's take submissive and slave and compare them for a moment, to put it into perspective. A slave is completely and totally devoted to her Master's wishes. She lives for her Master. She has taken vows to serve her Master with all of her heart, mind and soul. Granted, it is not the same role of a wife but the level of commitment and responsibility is similiar enough to compare the two. And, it IS a different level of commitment than a sub. Just as a Dominant's level of commitment is much different than a Master's. And, no, I have never had a wife. I could never be a wife. I don't have the desire to take on the responsibilities as a wife as they ARE very different than being a slave. However, they are a similiar level of commitment and responsibility, though the commitment/responsibilities are different and trust me I acknowledge that.