How do you choose a collar for living in for a long period of time?

[myri_SN]

i got my collar that i never take off,t he leather cord with the antique silver lock as one of my old posts shows and a very strong one for playing and tying to. the only time my collar comes off is for job interviews right now, as he finds it more important to get the job than to not take the collar off for 2 hours and have the potential employers wonder what the hell i am wearing. also i think a permanent collar's main purpose is a symbolic one.

[kittenfemme]

I mostly agree with you Dslave. I'd personally rather have a collar around the neck of my submissives that is at least as functional as it is aesthetically appealing, if not more so. But it's also my opinion that there is no one right way to do much of anything in the BDSM world. We kinky peeps tend to be a diverse and very creative lot.

I think that practical before pretty can be best for collars. In my opinion, It depends on the Dominant's use. Perhaps they merely want something to signify ownership such as the chain collar mentioned by Master_JoeHippy and the collars noted by myri_SN. It's quite easy to strap a functional leather or steel collar around a submissive's throat and over a less functional collar if one chooses to engage in play where a tough, functional collar is required. It can even be considered an additional part of bondage for the parties involved.

[Dslave]

kittenfemme, it is true, each has their personal preference in doing most anything (BDSM related or not) and right and wrong is often relative. Also, I meant no disrespect towards Mistresses and Dommes by my answer. I simply feel (and others may or may not disagree) that the Dom(me), Master/Mistress should be involved in the choosing of a long term collar and it should be comfortable to them and suit their needs as well as yours. Most subs/slaves (I know, even for myself, it is tempting) will be tempted to get something "pretty" rather than something that will last through long term use and I was just simply suggesting some things they may wish to think about in choosing a collar. It CAN be pretty AND durable.

[myri_SN]

master chose my collar. before i would mostly weatr gold jewellery so a leather collar with silver lock is not what i would usually wear.