Let me see if I can clarify my thoughts a little bit. Or at least my opinions.

Firstly, I do have a sensitive spot for humiliation. It's got a few levels to it. One, the word itself. Humiliation isn't one of those nice words like bondage. Also, I do have my own personal issues because of some extended humiliation I suffered at the hands of others.

Lastly, and this is where actually most of my true beef comes from. In my experiences, most dominants that I have met don't really understand it nor how it should be used. Perhaps it is because I am sensitive to it, but I've seen far far too many examples of dominants using it to elevate themselves above the sub and/or put a submissive down.

And not just in chatrooms with the "construction sight cat calls" (and I do love that term by the way. LOL)

I understand what Lucy and TG are talking about. Things like "my precious little slut" etc are fine. Hell, they can even be heartwarming and increase that feeling of belonging. Which is a nice thing. In fact, it can be a very nice thing.

But because of my history and the way that I've seen the methods of humiliation be abused, it makes me leery of it.