I guess it is easier for us who are not 24/7 submissives to take humiliation play and/or language. When we are not in our Ds roles, Woodsman treats me as an equal. He tells me I am beautiful and makes me feel like he really loves me, so when we play and he calls me a slut and a whore, I know it is not really what he believes. It seems to me that even a 24/7 submissive needs to hear often from her Master that she is loved and appreciated and that he thinks her sexy and attractive. (or a male sub from a mistress or master)

For us humiliation play is calling me names, making me speak in ways that I would never speak in public, or simply embarrassing play. All those personal social and physical things that I am so uptight about around others he wants me to put aside for him so that I am truly his and I give him all of me. But you are right in that it must happen gradually. It might even take 31 years.