Quote Originally Posted by Pandora's Box
Also, I do have my own personal issues because of some extended humiliation I suffered at the hands of others.

Things like "my precious little slut" etc are fine. Hell, they can even be heartwarming and increase that feeling of belonging. Which is a nice thing. In fact, it can be a very nice thing.

But because of my history and the way that I've seen the methods of humiliation be abused, it makes me leery of it.
I understanbd where you are PandorasBox. My current submissive was in a very abusive relationship before me, and He used words to berate, humiliate and abuse her. When we first started I asked about using certain words, and she asked I not use "cocksucking slut/whore", becuase her past partner had use this to degradate her. I kept my word and only much later when we had established a deep trust did I ask her about using it. Now she loves me using those words because she knows they are used with love and to make her pleasure more intense.

So humiliation is only effective when trust has been established and always through strong two way communication.


SirW