I have been on a few personals sights specifically devoted to bdsm (bondage.com, collarme) and have met some nice subs, though the ones I have met have once again been more of the 'weekend' or 'scene' varieties, though I am in contact now with a deeply submissive girl I met through the personals.

I was wondering what the dynamic was because I have done all the contacting and actually contacted another Dom from my area, through the personals, who I thought had a really precise well thought out profile and he also said he had only ever been contacted once by a sub, and she was a nut, and he had been a member there for almost 2 years, constantly logging in and chatting/browsing.

And it got me to wondering, is the gender bias of the male supposedly having to initiate all contact even more reinforced in the bdsm society and subs feel they shouldn't contact a Dom as this would be seen as being too forward, or do many of them, as masterkurt intimated, enjoy the small feeling of power they may get from having the Dom contact (chase) them.

Just really curious is all.

Jason