Ah, don't be so hard on yourself. To each their own. My kink may not be your kink, but I will defend your right to have your kink. I may not defend your right to perpetrate your kink onto another.Originally Posted by dynamicbuttler
That is very good to know. That you want it again.I was going back in my head to the time I was cuffed and cried... even to the fucked up experience that traumatized me from bondage...That time I freaked out from being cuffed, I realized I WAS experiencing sub drop: And thinking back, I like it. I want it again.
What is it that you truly want?
To experience sub drop?
Submission to another's will?
To be raped - truly raped without consent?
Many, many people get off on rape fantasies.
Why do you think the "bodice rippers" of romance are so popular? Or Luke and Laura on General Hospital?
Guy rapes girl, after she decides she liked it, loves him, so it wasn't really rape, was it? They get together and live happily every after. (The answer of course is that at the time, it was rape. She said no and meant it. )
And many people get off on rape. Check out all the non-consensual stories in the BDSM library. They wouldn't be there or read if people didn't like them.
Then there's reality.
If you really want to be raped, then is it rape?
Or is it wanting to be subdued so you can submit?
Humiliated so you can revel in it?
When I read about the domme who "forced" you do to things you didn't want with another male, that showed a great deal about what you crave.
If you are actively seeking a domme, knowing what you want will help you receive it and her to provide the experience for you.
A word of caution, let's not confuse fufilling your desires with physical harm. I've known too many subs who have ended up in the hospital because their "owners" didn't know where to draw the line. Your ongoing health and safety is your responsibility, too.