Sorry if it sounded like that. I was not condemning, simply stating my view on it...
In my opinion BDSM is not part of the game, when one of the two partners feels nothing for the other one.
Well, I can definitely see how being ignored, neglected and used can turn somebody on. I think you would benefit from widening your horizon somewhat. Masochism has many faces.
On a side-note, I love my slave more than life itself, and take all her money.