We should feel awful when our actions or words hurt someone we love, D/s or not.

I thought about being a mother. I adore them, I am in charge (they aren't spoiled or allowed to walk all over me), we have wonderful times together. And when they are sassy to me, or flippant, they need to be chastised. But sometimes my feelings get hurt by something they say or do. I'm, not immune just because I'm in charge.

While you're not a child, you and your Dom are a loving couple, and if you are flippant, or he is harsh (with his words, perhaps), you hurt each other's feelings.

I know I'm stating the obvious, but just because he usually has a handle on the situation, is "in control", doesn't mean your flippant remarks just show "disrespect". He feels pain, too. Just a different kind.

Sorry to ramble, I'm getting tired.