Online Training - Help a first-timer.

[Garmonbozia]

Well SirW my girl is a student, studying computer science/programming, and so spends a lot of her time indoors at a computer. She gets very excited and becomes extremely focused when I send her on a walk outside to a park and she is buzzed for a long time afterwards. I have also found that giving her a lot of simple tasks throughout the day, many things she may already have done herself, are an excellent way of keeping her duty in mind.

I ask my sub what she is thinking of having for lunch and then tell her exactly what to have. I have also begun choosing what meal she cooks for dinner, from a list of her favourites with one new recipe she must try each week. This not only has her thinking of me while she is eating but I have also given her instructions where she must brush her teeth after every meal. Just another little way to keep her thinking of me while she performs everyday tasks. She is enjoying the structure that these small tasks provide. Just telling her the way I want a task completed, washing the dishes is different from how she normally does them, allows a control and a structure to be placed on her life without her radically changing her lifestyle. I find it is quite powerful to envelope these everyday activities under my sphere of influence.

My sub is finding writing her journal an excellent time for focus on me (she kneels at the foot of her bed with the laptop on the bed). I also find that actually choosing a sub's outfit for the day is an excellent, and very easy, way to have them reminded of you all day. If you know your sub's clothes then you can pick an appropriate outfit for her work day (with a little unusual twist that will keep her thinking of you). Getting an inventory of her wardrobe is also an excellent task for a sub, for so many reasons. I have chosen a skirt for my sub to wear during her housework duties, and at no other time. My sub seems to be craving the structure such things bring and as I said before I find that it is the simple little things that are the most powerful.

Something else I have found really useful is to provide a schedule for her housework chores, and setting down specific times and days for her to complete these tasks. This way I know what she is doing at a certain time and that is something I enjoy as well and after the initial schedule is written it is something that requires no further input.

Jason

[SirW]

I have also found that giving her a lot of simple tasks throughout the day, many things she may already have done herself, are an excellent way of keeping her duty in mind.
My sub is finding writing her journal an excellent time for focus on me (she kneels at the foot of her bed with the laptop on the bed). I also find that actually choosing a sub's outfit for the day is an excellent, and very easy, way to have them reminded of you all day. My sub seems to be craving the structure such things bring and as I said before I find that it is the simple little things that are the most powerful.
Jason

Thanks for sharing these ideas/tasks. I haven't been able to do the amount of control in daily activities with a submissive's on-line training, mostly due to the fact that my current submissive and others in the past, have fairly full and complex lives other than their BDSM interests. But some of the simple things you have mentioned are good ideas to try. I find that my current submissive trainee craves more and more control by ME. So these small ways are good things to try.

Have you done or thought about body modification? Keeping her pubic hair shaved or trimmed a certain way? Nipple jewelry? Restrictive clothing like corsetts? Piercings? Tattoos? Asking her to change her hairstyle? (I have done this in the past, and it is really a powerful way to exert control. I found my submissive had been thinking about changing her hair style for a long time but had kept putting it off. When I told her how she was going to have it cut and styled, to fit my specifications, it was a dream come true for her.)

Also, using butt plugs during the day; a regimen of masturbation, with orgasm denial the aim, vibrators to increases sensitivity of nipples, clit, etc.
I like a submissive to write out fantasies for me. And I read and extend them.I have also sent her pictures of submissive or bondage positions and specific BDSM stories.
Just some thoughts off the top of my head.
Thanks for continuing to share.


Sir W

[Garmonbozia]

Well SirW body modification is something that I won't consider until I can be there with her for it. She has no experience in anything like that. She does not even have her ears pierced so major changes like that are out for the moment. I also only consider modification after I have had a chance to experience everything in it's natural state. Some nipples/breasts look odd and out of place with piercings, others I find are crying out for them. So on that front we will have to wait and see.

Pubic hair - nothing there to style so that is not an option either

As for buttplugs or corsets, well she has NO toys whatsoever. No dildos, nothing. So before any toys can be used she must first buy them or I must send them to her. There is no rush. We have known each other for only a very short time and I am progressing gently.

I did a session of breastplay with her and got her to put a peg over each nipple. She was very confused by the pain/pleasure she felt from that. She is however in love with icecubes now I tried to explain that the pain was good for her to feel and there wasn't anything wrong with enjoying pain but I fear that it was not my best explanation so to reinforce that, and fight off societies stigma, another session very soon is in order I think.

I am thinking about sending her a few pictures, one at a time, and having her describe how they make her feel. I think that is a good idea.

If you have a very busy sub then what I think you need to do is take the activities that she does everyday at home and at work and put a twist no them, or place a restriction on them. This will let her feel your control almost all day long and give her the impression that you are controlling so many aspects of her life. I have no idea what kind of work she does (or do I, I can't remember) but let me know if you like (in a PM?) and we'll see what we can come up with.

Jason

[Garmonbozia]

Well, I had to punish my girl for the first time today. She had a minor tiff with a friend and forgot to brush her teeth in the morning. So when she confessed it to me she was punished by putting toothpaste on her anus and reapplying it whenever it began to wear off. This is not particularly painful but it is quite uncomfortable and is not something that can be ignored, and after a number of hours she became focused on it more than she should have. She was definitely contrite after the third application.

I have also started her on position/posture training and that seems to be progressing quite well.

Jason

[SirW]

Sorry I have not been responding for a bit. Busy with other life activities, and my submissive in training was gone on "holiday" and is now back but very busy with her life activities too. You are fortunate that your submissive has a less complicated life and can afford to devote the time to you she has.
I will try to post more in the coming week. Take care and continue posting if you wish. I am enjoying reading them.

Sir W

[Garmonbozia]

That's ok SirW, I know the constrictions everyday life can sometimes place upon us and our online activities. I have not been doing all that much. I have my sub choose 3 recipes each week that she will cook to broaden her horizons with taste and texture and to increase her cooking skills. I have also begun her position training and she seems to be doing very well at that, and enjoying it as well.

Jason

[Garmonbozia]

Sorry to disappoint andibabe, but I am no longer training this girl. It seems she was yet another kink seeker, liking the bondage and the thrill rather than the actual submission and training. I just wish people could be more honest in this lifestyle. She was maybe a little inexperienced to know what direction her feelings were going to take, so I have helped her a little there, but it is still disappointing.

But not to worry for me, I have moved on and am about to meet a local girl, who is most definitely more what I am searching for. So fingers crossed for me. I would still like to hear more from SirW on how his training is going, talk about it and offer suggestions if I could.

Jason