I too think you are right to trust your instincts. I always tend to go with my gut - the only time I get into trouble is when I ignore that nagging little voice in my head.

I strongly believe that in a D/s relationship (for me anyway) we come together as equals, and then I choose to submit. This also means I am choosey as to whom I submit to. Just calling yourself a Dom does not automatically earn yourself this privledge.

I also believe that if you are trying to establish a long term relationship, you shouldn't base it just on sex. It's important to learn about each other outside of the bedroom as well. Panty-less breakfast as a first date goes against that a little....

Just my humble opinion...