This kind of thread is what makes this site so valuable and worth being involved in.

Sensitivity is a key facet of any good Dom's makeup, IMHO, we must be sensitive to our partners needs and also their reactions to the games we play. The flip side is that we are sensitive in other areas too and it is in the times between the roleplaying and intense sessions that I feel it is easy for me to get hurt.

As with many issues raised on the site the key to resolution is communication and if you structure your relationship in a way that allows for periods of open and frank discussion where you each are on an equal level (as well as periods where someone is most definitely in charge and the other totally submits) then it should always be possible to resolve this kind of hurt.

Elsewhere in the forum Tom has mentioned that as players in BDSM we are probably more open minded than our vanilla brethren but we can still sometimes be just as awkward about communicating our feelings frankly for fear of the reaction of our partners or loved ones.

I don't know if that adds to the discussion but I hope it conveys my view.

PS: Of course Dom's are more sensitive! Did anyone think I could get through a post without being mischievous?