As a dominant you have to earn the submission of your sub. In other words a strong sub will require their dominant to be stronger still, before they will submit. This is indeed a challenge and as a dominant it will keep you on your toes. As far as an aphrodisiac, well yes, a person who is confidant in themselves and has a strong personality is apt to be confidant about their own sexuality. And a person who is confidant and comfortable with their own sexuality is a definite turn on.

Barton