First I want to say that I think you made a wise decision Daes.

Second I want to make clear I don't mean to offend anybody...

Because I'm with Wolfscout, if it had been me to choose, then I had dropped the phone during that fist call. In my eyes that person is not worthy to be called a Dom. I feel sorry for him, that he doesn't seem to know better... In my eyes he is a sad person...

And I've seen/heard these kind off things all around, here and on other sites. And can't help laughing about some peoples attempts, but could just as well cry.

Although probably more common among "Doms", quite an amount of subs do it to. Although often written off as being naive...it's still the same to me... Lately I "scared" a girl (won't call her sub) off by trying to get to know her. But she wanted to play. She pmed me in chat to ask if I had any assignments for her, I think we didn't even really greet each other....

I've done some roleplay etc in the past with practical strangers. But I'm not interested anymore. Roleplay can be nice, for time it takes... Getting to know somebody means much more to me. Even if they are 'just' friends, then that means much more to me then being with a stranger...

Same thing for calling me Sir etc. Some subs do it as soon as they find out I'm a Dom. I don't like it. There is one sub from who I really appreciate it, and that is my sub. Others that I haven't even met, or barely met, should use my name, I'm not their sir.

Giving tasks before meeting someone is fine. But only if the two of you agree to that. And although the Dom might be in charge, he may not do/order anything that you're not comfortable with. Be it online, on a first meeting, or after years of being together. You have to give consent. If he goes against that, then he is no Dom, just a sad person...

And maybe he just needs to learn, but he should have done that before. He has had enough time for that...

Daes, always remember, the Dom might set the rules, but you ALWAYS set the limits. And you both have to agree on as well the rules as the limits. And yes both can be pushed over time, but should never be broken!

I1985 walks of the stage, finished with his lecture for today....