Hi loonytunes,

i'm not entirely sure what you mean; just to clarify, do you mean you would like her to take more pain, or you would actually like her to enjoy the pain you currenly give her, and more? If the latter, i can kinda recommend gradually combining pleasure with pain...the power of association being quite strong after a period of time..if the former then yes, i think just building up gradually is probably the way to go.

sl