I hate to take this stance, but sometimes I think Doms are lacking in sensitivity. TO many are so caught up in the macho "Domly" image that they thing be sensitive to their partners feelings, needs and wants will be seen as not Domly and Masterful. This tends to leave subs bewildered and frustrated.

and as to that Sticks and Stones thing. . . shouldnt that read "Sticks and Stones will break my bones, but whips and chains excite me!

TDS