raped for being sub?

[Dslave]

Unfortunately, no matter how much you want to save other people from bad experiences the most you can do is share and I think that sharing this is the good thing that came out of it. Maybe, someone considering doing the same thing that you did will reconsider after reading this and be more cautious. It is horrible that people abuse situations and people for their own personal gain and I am sorry it happened to you but hopefully you have learned enough from it to teach someone else not to make the same mistake and I think that you need to take that with you and leave the rest behind. Just remember, no matter how much you try to warn people, people are going to do what they want to do, regardless. Hopefully, people will think twice about meeting a person without having a really good safe plan for that meeting after hearing what you went through. If they don't, at least you did what you could and attempted to make your bad into good.

[woodsman'sgame]

then some poeple said noone could play with me if i don't want but he did

Don't listen to those who said you wanted that to happen, Myri. If you didn't, you didn't. The fact that you didn't fight doesn't mean a thing. Just because we are submissive and don't fight doesn't mean we want bad things to happen to us. You should not feel like you did anything wrong. You trusted someone and he took advantage of that trust. He was an ass.

Thanks for the warning. I hope that others will take heed.

[Dngnkeeper]

Woodsman'sgame you are so right. NO means just that NO!!!!!

Myri as a male rape victim I have an understanding of your thoughts and feelings. Let me reiterate just because you are submissive you are NOT available to anyone and everyone regardless of YOUR desires. This guy is a predator and you have done a very courageous thing in telling others about him.

Getting up on soap box....

Its fortunate that you followed the basic safety rules when meeting this guy as I shutter to think of what might have happened under different cerstances. After the many years of enjoying BDSM I have seen first hand what can happen when predators have abused people and the consequences it has on the rest of their lives.

As a sponsor of a local BDSM munch I find this story all too familiar. Several times a year I hear from other women and occasionally men about chillingly familiar stories of trust broken in a similar manner. All to often the victim is to scared, embraced or too far in the closet to come forward and warn others of the dangers of the predators they have encountered. And oddly enough like the woman you mention, even after warnings from others, they will still seek out these predators for a relationship, only to fall victim themselves.

Myri there is no shame in saying no to unwanted sexual advances and you should have no guilt because of the actions of a predator. After all how can he expect trust when he has no respect for you as a person. Thank you for letting others know about him.