I am glad that I cast some thoughts for consideration upon the waters. Having said what I did let me offer some alternate options. How about a prenuptual caning?

Perhaps Nikka in seeking a commerative painfest should consider the following. At an appropriate interval before the event the bride to be should present herself to a panel of her peers. They will order her to disrobe to a degree sufficient to expose her nether regions. They will bind her four extremities upon a carpenter's horse such that no matter how much she struggles she cannot escape her fate. Then an implement will be chosen - perhaps a rattan can, or a switch trimmed from a resilient hardwood, or maybe a plastic or fiberglass rod - with which to chastise our friend. This will not be a casual punishment resulting in a few red marks upon the buttocks. This will be the serious infliction of pain resulting in bruises that stretch from side to side and from the iliacs to half way down the thighs. Nikka may need to experience what it feels like to have the bleeding of lacerated skin staunched with vinegar.

It is not that I am opposed to exploring the relationship between pain, the loss of control inherent in bondage and erotic arousal. But I believe that the complexities of our kinks can be examined without resorting to scenerios that cause damage that is difficult to repair. I suspect that Nikka has not sufficiently experienced the ultimate spectrum of pain that can be inflicted with the cane, switch or whip, slowly and properly yielded. Do not venture lightly into the truely dark side of eroticism before you have fully explored that which can be done without causing irreversible damage.

Too often we committ ourselves to something that seems thrilling but in reality is damaging without having fully examined the spectrum of stimulation that is available to us at reasonable risk.