Woodsman'sgame you are so right. NO means just that NO!!!!!

Myri as a male rape victim I have an understanding of your thoughts and feelings. Let me reiterate just because you are submissive you are NOT available to anyone and everyone regardless of YOUR desires. This guy is a predator and you have done a very courageous thing in telling others about him.

Getting up on soap box....

Its fortunate that you followed the basic safety rules when meeting this guy as I shutter to think of what might have happened under different cerstances. After the many years of enjoying BDSM I have seen first hand what can happen when predators have abused people and the consequences it has on the rest of their lives.

As a sponsor of a local BDSM munch I find this story all too familiar. Several times a year I hear from other women and occasionally men about chillingly familiar stories of trust broken in a similar manner. All to often the victim is to scared, embraced or too far in the closet to come forward and warn others of the dangers of the predators they have encountered. And oddly enough like the woman you mention, even after warnings from others, they will still seek out these predators for a relationship, only to fall victim themselves.

Myri there is no shame in saying no to unwanted sexual advances and you should have no guilt because of the actions of a predator. After all how can he expect trust when he has no respect for you as a person. Thank you for letting others know about him.