Here it is! More grand advice from Ruby. It was in response to a question on humiliation from a wife about her husband, so it fits here just great.

For many people, there is a huge turn on thinking about living as a 24/7 submissive. It's a fantastic fantasy.

Then life happens. Work, family, friends, kids, etc.

What sounded hot in a moment of passion, doesn't sound so hot when others enter the picture.

Have you ever seen the "Twighlight Zone" episode where the man got everything he ever wanted? As it turns out, he died and went to ... Hell.

Why do you want him to be your 24/7 submissive?

What does that mean to you? To him? How would it change what you are already doing? What expectations would you place on each other?

What will you get out of it?

What will he?

I'm not asking you to answer those questions in a pm or here on the forums. Please think about those questions. Communicate with your husband. Truly define what it is you want today, knowing that you may want something else tomorrow.

We live in a real world, with lots of choices and more than 31 flavors of ice cream. Perhaps the reason he is holding back, is because he'd like to experience more than just one flavor.

Ruby

PS

On a side note. Humilation does not have to be part of a D/S relationship. If it works for the two of you, great. If not, then try something else.