When Doms hit on Dommes

[ValKyrie]

Yeah, I have seen a few boobs in chat before think they're going to "conquer" the dominant female and make her their slave before. You could always tell the ones that were dealing with women that were sure of themselves and that knew exactly what they wanted, because they were the ones that got sent packing and disappointed.

This seems to be the scenarios that I find myself in.

Perhaps these particular Doms are truly into humiliation at the hands of a FemDomme!

[Dngnkeeper]

This can cut both ways ValKyrie. There is many a time a Domme has suggested I would be a great submissive for her. When asked why I usually get a " I want to see how well you can handle me doing that" response. This usually comes after they have seen me working what they think is a particulary heavy scene.

I think some of it may be driven by the fact I grew up on the bottom and worked my way to the top. (pun intended) Some have even admitted that having toped a Dom would look good on the resume. A few are searching for bottoms/subs with some stamina and/or lots of training. (a rare comidity)

I even got luckey one night and overheard a conversation between two Dommes discussing a scene they would like to do with me. Ill never forget the look on their faces when I walked in with with a bunch of cufs and toys on how quickley that look changed when I tried to put it on one of them while describing the scene they had just concocked.

MasterKurt I couldnt agree more

Anyone who speaks about "breaking" a woman into submissiveness only proves that he has very little experience and knows very little about women.

Amen Brother

[Gallardo]

Heh. I see my fantasies have carried a bit too far. I have no idea why Doms would "hit on" Dommes in real life other than an attempt at fulfilling a fantasy. A fantasy which I share but have never acted upon in life. Following MasterKurt's wisdom, I think I leave it as fantasy. Maybe you can question those that approach you, Val? Spank an answer or two out of them. This reminds me of Iketeru Futari, not sure if you can get your hands on it.

[rallan]

Well they might just've read one too many Gor novels as a kid...

[Barton]

The word that you are looking for is "poser". The only kind of "dom" that would chase a domme is either that or is really a secret sub.

[Athenna]

May be it is a virus spreading in heads of unexperienced male Dominants??

:Chuckles :

Jokes apart, its the scenario i also find my self in.. all the time!!!

AconitE.

[ValKyrie]

Perhaps some people enjoy the power struggle and believe they truly can win?

Or perhaps some men believe unconditionally that a woman's place and a woman's needs can only be fulfilled as subbie? Hence, they feel a need to teach some of us renegade women a lesson or two.

I can understand some of the allure of topping a strong, independent individual. In fact, my own sub is a very strong, powerful man and yes, this fuels my fire.

However, I recognize a great amount of strength in how comfortable and confident he is with the power exchange as it occurs between us. Having a sub that exudes strength and control in his daily life isn't like felling a tree. Rather, it is more like feeding and nurturing it.

(Slipping off topic, but he is on My mind this evening. )

Val

[Athenna]

:Grin: I say the same about my submissive. He's strong as a rock, but sizzles melts when i touch... (Shucks! i miss him, he is outta my hands reach for a while )

Its totally about how free we are with each other that he, without any misconceptions surrender his self to me, and that makes it so beautiful. Yep there are times when he is behaving like a brat and he does that solely knowing i love to tame him down , and its a damn superb power trip after i subdue him.

May be thats the same power surge a dominant male is trying to feel when he thinks he can tame me, and he thinks that it would be so much of fun, one of the best power trips. eh, what he doesnt get it that in previous scene there is an inherent emotion : Consent!! And that gives me the power to tame him in first place.

And the Dominant male doesnt see that probably!!!

AconitE.

[Barton]

Or perhaps some men believe unconditionally that a woman's place and a woman's needs can only be fulfilled as subbie? Hence, they feel a need to teach some of us renegade women a lesson or two.


Val

Barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. Like I said a poser.

[Finding_Fantasy]

I feel that just because you are a Dominant that does not mean another Dominant won't find you attractive or desirable. I would take it as a compliment.

On the other hand, it may be a vain attempt to boost the ego of the male Dominant. If he can "break" the will of a female Domianant, then perhaps he would feel that he could tame anyone? Just a thought. I also know (from watching) that some male dominants feel threatened by female dominants, that their masculinity is threatened or something of the sort, especially if he is only interested in the female of the species. If the male is a chauvanist, it may spur him on further.

Just a thought. (This in no way reflects on any of the Domiannts here)

[Mobius]

I feel that just because you are a Dominant that does not mean another Dominant won't find you attractive or desirable. I would take it as a compliment.

On the other hand, it may be a vain attempt to boost the ego of the male Dominant. If he can "break" the will of a female Domianant, then perhaps he would feel that he could tame anyone? Just a thought. I also know (from watching) that some male dominants feel threatened by female dominants, that their masculinity is threatened or something of the sort, especially if he is only interested in the female of the species. If the male is a chauvanist, it may spur him on further.

Just a thought. (This in no way reflects on any of the Domiannts here)

I would think in a M/F relationship of Dominance submishing being a chauvanist would be a prerequasit?
But then again being a dom it would be more fun having the sub open the door, pick up the check,Clean the house,etc. So I gues I am wrong.

[Finding_Fantasy]

But then again being a dom it would be more fun having the sub open the door, pick up the check,Clean the house,etc. So I gues I am wrong.

You;re not wrong, Mobius, if that is what you prefer and find desirable in a d/s relationship. It's your preference and, therefore, makes it right, for you that is