I believe there is a male counter part to wiredpussy.com
something like meninpain. I believe it is part of the whole hogtied/fuckedpussy/wiredpussy conglomerit. A whole kinky empire as it were.

as for a deviese to eltro either gender I would say a tens unit could be used for either sex. They are sold at hospital supply stores to relieve chronic back pain. Probly "shockingly expensive" but there you go.